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Have Patience and exercise Control.

There is a saying that ''If you can learn self control, you can master anything”

Patience is required on a different level when dealing with special-needs children and adults. 
It is very important to know how far your emotions can take you, especially if you have a child or an adult who doesn’t process information the way you do.

How could you exercise control with your sibling or child? 
Negative emotions like anger tend to spin out of control. I won’t lie, my little brother annoys me unknowingly and sometimes, intentionally. Most of the time, I’m like “God, give me patience today and don't let me break my brother's head”.



I always say something to my mother ''you are allowed to be angry and upset about a situation, but it is important to know what to do with your emotions". 

You could hurt people with your words or actions and that's not alright. Don’t react right away. Take a deep breath and try to calm down. Think of the repercussions of your actions. You don't want to say something you would regret. 

Personally, I have learnt that bottling your emotions won't get you far. I have a journal where I write about my feelings and the minute I'm done, I feel so much better. You can do that or talk to someone about your worries or focus on an activity that relieves you. 
Different things work for different people.

Do not feel guilty for any emotion because you’re human. You cannot not be upset or sad; something is bound to happen that will bring out such emotion. Like I said it’s what you do with that emotion that really matters. 

And if you still have a problem accepting disabilities and disorders, just note that “We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, everybody has something amazing to offer”- Ryan seacrest.

If you also have a problem, dealing with your emotions, you could also listen to a meditation. I suggest the abide app which I use.  All meditations are based off Biblical scriptures. God's word will always have a way to lift you up! 

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