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THE SEASON OF LOVE: WHAT PERSONS WITH DIFFERENCES WANT YOU TO KNOW!

 

It’s the season of love. 

Everyone knows that I am a mushy person, and I love love!

I love romantic things. Unfortunately, I’m single. But I’ll show love to myself. 

Like Joan in girlfriends said,” I will embrace my singlehood.”

It’s Valentine’s day! Of course, people treat the day as a day focused on romantic love alone, but generally, it’s a day to show love to everyone!

Gone are the days when people with disabilities weren’t allowed to mingle with other members of society. 

People with differences find love. They have children and live very fulfilled lives. 

Love is not always easy- it comes with problems (I would know). If you’re friends with or dating a person with a disability or a disorder, there are things that you need to know. 

Persons with disabilities will want you to know these three things;

Have Patience with me

Patience is needed daily, with yourself, with your parents, and most importantly, with partners. Caring for persons with differences can be overwhelming sometimes, but what in the world isn’t? 

These people want you to love them and be patient with them. It may take time for milestones to be achieved; while you wait on the sun to shine on you, do not give up. No one likes for someone to abandon them. So please understand there will be bad days, and they want you to love them despite them.

      Don’t be ashamed of me. 

The crazy thing about society is that they will always place standards on you. People that don’t know you will be telling you how to live your life, dictating what you wear, what to say, and who you date. 

Unfortunately, not many people are open to persons with differences, but that should not be your problem; if they have a problem accepting, tell them to fix up. You continue to show your partner love within and outside your home. Introduce them to friends. It may be difficult, but I realize that with love, anything is possible. 

Communicate with me!

Communication is needed every day, especially when it comes to relationships. No one is a mind reader and cannot fully know what you are thinking. Speak up when you have something bothering you. Some people may not understand your facial expressions, so don’t be vague and communicate with them about your challenges. 

Please speak up.

Most importantly, be understanding. If you’re dating someone with a physical challenge, understand that you may need help to achieve some things or to do daily things. The world hardly ever has disabled people in mind, and that can make life unnecessarily difficult. Please make them feel loved.


To my little brother and others living with a neurodevelopmental disorder or disability, I wish you a beautiful love story with a gentle, patient, and understanding partner who is always rooting for your success. 

Happy Valentine’s day. 

 

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