''Autism, Love and Marriage"

Can people with autism be in romantic relationships?

Of course, they can.

Can people with autism feel love?

Yes, they can.

Some people seem to forget that autistic individuals are just like you and I. They are also human!

There is a general misconception that these individuals are not deserving of love. It shouldn't be. Love is a beautiful thing that everyone should be able to experience and enjoy.

As a neurotypical person, I am fully aware that romantic relationships can be hard, but for people with autism, it is even more complex and confusing.

They struggle with social skills and some have alexithymia, a condition that makes it hard to understand emotions, but it doesn't mean that they don't crave intimacy and love.

Younger, I had the opinion that my little brother wouldn’t ever date or get married. Then, I realized that it was the previous situation that made me think so. There’s nothing impossible for my God (yes, I'm going to talk about God).

Sure, I can’t picture my little brother with a pretty little girl just yet, but it doesn’t mean that the imagery doesn’t exist! Just because someone has autism, doesn't mean they don't yearn for affection and romance. Everyone does.

I know soon enough he’s going to have a beautiful wife who loves to cook rice thrice a week and he’s going to be a good father to beautiful kids.

Please check out the movie "Autism in love" a beautiful American film that was released in 2015. The film evolves around four adults with autism, focusing on love and adult relationships.

If you're still not convinced that individuals living with autism can find love and get married, below is an evidence.

This is the picture of two individuals living with autism who recently got married. Chukwuemeka and Busola met and fell in love at Champions Vocational Centre in Ogun state and wedded in April.

Check out the links below for more details about their love story!

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=835080184033174

We hope to have four children —Newly-weds living with autism - Healthwise (punchng.com)

Oh yes! Things to remember about autistic individuals. They are not all the same; They are all so uniquely different. Autism is a spectrum, therefore symptoms differ.

They can be hard to communicate with, but remember that speaking isn’t the only way to communicate. Actions speak better than words.

And hey! they still like to have fun! Find out things that they enjoy and schedule a time to engage in those activities.

Remember to dispel any form of misconception in the society, because we don't really know, but they are immensely harmful💓

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